I think you did the right thing in asking, Annie. And your husband's first priority is his wife and children, that's why he listened. It will all work out beautifully... I truly believe God wants families together, as much as humanly possible. :)
As Catholics, we're supposed to be in this world, not of it. So, maybe some of our decisions look stupid, but other people have a different lense (and plenty of Catholics have their priorities out of order). Many saints looked "stupid," but that "looking stupid" in the world's eyes was what made them saints. God has this. Martin also chose this.. he obviously agreed with you enough to quit. Money isn't everything. The Surrender Novena is so helpful to me..."O, Jesus, I surrender myself to you, take care of everything." Jesus will guide and protect your family. Thank you for being willing to NOT follow what others thinks looks "good." Good is subjective, and oftentimes God asks us to do things that look crazy to others...
"Maybe you set a 5:30am alarm for “every day” knowing FULL WELL that *every day* when the alarm goes off you’re just going to hit the snooze until 7:30 when you jump up and scramble, but you like the virtuous feeling of setting an extra early alarm and pretending you get such an early start on your day." --- I didn't need a personal call-out 😉 but this made me laugh out loud at how true it is!
My opinion doesn’t mean much but I think you two made a wonderful decision for your whole family. And it shows what a kind, loving and thoughtful husband and father Martin is.
My list is bigger than yours is Annie, but I’ve had a lot more time to build it up. You and I handle some of our issues and disappointments differently. My reactions are often a lot less dignified. Even to much as the use of my middle finger. Or in my quieter moments of reflection just going to bed seems inviting. My kids are grown and out of the house so I can do that easier than you can. Sometimes I think my wife’s list is longer than mine but I wisely keep that to myself. You didn’t ask for advice but I’ll throw this one out for consideration. Our oldest granddaughter used this to her advantage once. One day when she was about three she dialed 911. Of course that resulted in her first meeting with a police officer who only thought he was going to talk to her about playing with the phone, ha.. she put her fingers in her ears and announced “I not listen you” and then took off out of the room . I think she used that ploy a few times with her mom too. 😂. She’s now the mother of three…what goes around comes around. That’s as much encouragement and advice as I can muster up this morning. Be well, ignore the negative.
People love drama in other peoples lives. I’m sorry yours is the chosen drama for now. But I appreciate you sharing your experience and vulnerability! Maybe more people should be asking their spouses to quit a job that is making the family miserable. Too many women spend time sticking out a situation that doesn’t work because they feel they can ask for what they need from their spouse, especially if they are SAHM. But the whole point is that it’s a partnership where your are trying to grow this a family together. You did what’s right for you and no one else gets an opinion. The next step is unknown for now but I can imagine God putting some really great opportunities in your path that wouldn’t have been open if Martin had stuck it out.
I am so sorry you are going through this. My mom went through something similar (about something else, not related to my dad's job) and the knowledge that people around you are talking about you and judging your very personal life and decisions like this is very traumatic. It is actual trauma imo.
I know that I don't know you for real and I follow without commenting much, so my words perhaps have less weight, but from where I stand this was a personal choice for your family and you did NOTHING wrong. You and your husband made a decision together. People don't have to agree with it or approve of it, but they should be able to recognize their opinions don't really matter!!
I think you did the right thing in asking, Annie. And your husband's first priority is his wife and children, that's why he listened. It will all work out beautifully... I truly believe God wants families together, as much as humanly possible. :)
As Catholics, we're supposed to be in this world, not of it. So, maybe some of our decisions look stupid, but other people have a different lense (and plenty of Catholics have their priorities out of order). Many saints looked "stupid," but that "looking stupid" in the world's eyes was what made them saints. God has this. Martin also chose this.. he obviously agreed with you enough to quit. Money isn't everything. The Surrender Novena is so helpful to me..."O, Jesus, I surrender myself to you, take care of everything." Jesus will guide and protect your family. Thank you for being willing to NOT follow what others thinks looks "good." Good is subjective, and oftentimes God asks us to do things that look crazy to others...
"Maybe you set a 5:30am alarm for “every day” knowing FULL WELL that *every day* when the alarm goes off you’re just going to hit the snooze until 7:30 when you jump up and scramble, but you like the virtuous feeling of setting an extra early alarm and pretending you get such an early start on your day." --- I didn't need a personal call-out 😉 but this made me laugh out loud at how true it is!
My opinion doesn’t mean much but I think you two made a wonderful decision for your whole family. And it shows what a kind, loving and thoughtful husband and father Martin is.
Oh Annie, forget the nay sayers! Taking care of yourself is important and the situation wasn’t working for you. I commend you for changing it.
My list is bigger than yours is Annie, but I’ve had a lot more time to build it up. You and I handle some of our issues and disappointments differently. My reactions are often a lot less dignified. Even to much as the use of my middle finger. Or in my quieter moments of reflection just going to bed seems inviting. My kids are grown and out of the house so I can do that easier than you can. Sometimes I think my wife’s list is longer than mine but I wisely keep that to myself. You didn’t ask for advice but I’ll throw this one out for consideration. Our oldest granddaughter used this to her advantage once. One day when she was about three she dialed 911. Of course that resulted in her first meeting with a police officer who only thought he was going to talk to her about playing with the phone, ha.. she put her fingers in her ears and announced “I not listen you” and then took off out of the room . I think she used that ploy a few times with her mom too. 😂. She’s now the mother of three…what goes around comes around. That’s as much encouragement and advice as I can muster up this morning. Be well, ignore the negative.
People love drama in other peoples lives. I’m sorry yours is the chosen drama for now. But I appreciate you sharing your experience and vulnerability! Maybe more people should be asking their spouses to quit a job that is making the family miserable. Too many women spend time sticking out a situation that doesn’t work because they feel they can ask for what they need from their spouse, especially if they are SAHM. But the whole point is that it’s a partnership where your are trying to grow this a family together. You did what’s right for you and no one else gets an opinion. The next step is unknown for now but I can imagine God putting some really great opportunities in your path that wouldn’t have been open if Martin had stuck it out.
I am so sorry you are going through this. My mom went through something similar (about something else, not related to my dad's job) and the knowledge that people around you are talking about you and judging your very personal life and decisions like this is very traumatic. It is actual trauma imo.
I know that I don't know you for real and I follow without commenting much, so my words perhaps have less weight, but from where I stand this was a personal choice for your family and you did NOTHING wrong. You and your husband made a decision together. People don't have to agree with it or approve of it, but they should be able to recognize their opinions don't really matter!!